If Sex was an exercise, I'd be in tip-top shape

1. Sex Relieves Stress

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

3. Sex Burns Calories

4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health

5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem

6. Sex Improves Intimacy

7. Sex Reduces Pain

8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk

9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles

10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better

Get lost in 'Don't Make a Black Woman take off her earrings' at the beach

Its funny and really pinpoints alot of truths in life, best one, you have to find laughter in everything.

To the graduating class of 2009

remember, to put your heart in the lead, let God guide your directions, and that money is not the end all be all. Put people first, relationships matter, and you don't always have to be right, but you should always be honest. Time is valuable especially when your dealing with love ones. You can not get back a moment lost. Take time to boost someones self esteem and not tear down their dreams. You value is not in what you have done, to make yourself look big. Because the person looking at you will never see you the way, you see yourself. You are worth everything.

God Created Love

I think God created Love before anything else, once he decided to create animals and people that was put in them, for many reasons, to procreate, attraction, but most of all it was put there so we could understand his love for us. That is why we spend our life seeking it, craving it, needing it, thinking and knowing that with it, we could have a better quality of life. Ok before I get rhetoric on "I don't need love", etc.. yes you do, deep down the thought that someone in the world cares for you like no other is appealing, even if you dont admit it. In the last few months, I have seen alot of manifest ions of love, a fathers love, a grandfathers love, a new love, an old one. People searching for it so deeply they grab any person who seems to be a little interested and mold each word they say into words they think are love, even when you are the one having to carry the conversation, you are the one saying I love you, and more or less drawing those words out of them, an outsider can read the same words or hear them and know they are an automatic response and not one of true love.
Believe me I am not one who can talk with out some knowledge, I would grasp on to relationships thinking they were all I wanted, when I knew they weren't, don't get me wrong, I felt love for these people, but then it was love as I understood it at the time, not true, deep down love, the kind that is of pure understanding, of wanting the better for him, even if I am hurt in the process, true deep love, Christlike love. I wanted to be adored, put above all others, reminded that I matter, and I took the words Love covers a multitude of sins to heart, but that is often taken out of context. If it is true love, one that is suppose to be, there is no true sins to cover. They don't want someone else, they put your want, needs, happiness above their own. They do it with out even realizing they are doing it, because, well because they love you.
A mother knows this love, how many times have you been so angry at your child that if murder was legal they would be history, but love is there, and after a few minutes that mommy gene pops out and you are a little less angry, a small smile covers your lips, and you think, Yep!! that's my kid. That is true love and whether with your mate, child or friend, it is the one that holds true. I remember reading to much into what one lover would tell me, dissecting every line he wrote looking for meaning in the words that showed he did love me, hoping it was not one sided. That this time it was true, poor guy, he was looking for fun and I was looking for love. After him, I loved another, sort of, he was the complete opposite of the last guy, and a GREAT friend, but the way he loved, even though I thought I loved the same way, was not fulfilling to me. I needed true love, the way that God intended, the meeting of two halves that are made whole. Ok, not that you can't be whole by yourself, you can, but its different when you find the one that is your half. Life seems to be effortless when your mate is truly the one for you. When you are with the one that God intended from the start. You laugh more, cry more, enjoy the flavor of the world more. Its not so much a rush in life, but more of adventure. I have been with my Ish a while now, in a few months, it will be a year. Soon our lives will be a lot different then we both thought we wanted when this road first started. But one that both of us can not imagine going to.
But the reason for the blog, lol.. I retrieved some files on my poor sad old laptop who I am trying to retrieve from death. Say a prayer..lol Anywho, I was reading old IM's of mine with someone I loved whole heartedly and thought he loved me to, but now in the reading them, the smell of desperation is so heavy in the air that I nearly gag at my behavior. I wonder how many of my friends, saw this and where being to kind to say anything to me. Or laughing at me behind my back. How I would carry a conversation for hours on end, when all he wanted to do was find someone fun to "play" with. And its not only women who do that, I know a few men that needed to be wanted so bad that they will carry a conversation just to have the touch. (Sorry Daniel if I ever hurt you by being so dang complacent) Lord help me, if I would have looked to God first in this, maybe I would have found what I have now alot sooner. I have a friend, well I think of her a friend, who is engaged to a man she met on facebook a month ago. He was someone she went to school with, back in the day, and he found her, or her him and now 3 weeks later they are engaged. I wonder if it is "God's will" or if it is that need that is so deep in us for that love, the one that makes life so much stronger, better.
I do believe there is "True Love" out there, and its not something you can fabricate, it is something you have to just stay open to, that you keep seeking for and that will come to you when you decide to quit doing it yourself. Its the love that you don't have to lead the conversation, that you can talk hours on end , the one that the newness is still there, in all you do with each other, the kind that allows a comfortable silence to sit between each other, and there is no urgency to have to have a conversation. The kind that is willing to work thru hurt and tears to keep that love near you.
I hope my friend, is happy and that she has found what I have found. I hope that I meet the needs that my Ish searched for in the women before me. And I hope that our new life that is coming for us both, is the icing to an already amazing cake.

A year ago this month

Its amazing how much can happen in a year, wow, more than can be told I suppose. A year ago this month I met this really nice man on a social site, he was nice, didn't even make a pass at me. He wanted to be my friend, and hell you know me, I will be friends with anyone. We talked religion, music, medicine, life, love, and the net. May 27th, 2008, I met the man who would forever change my life.
I live with my Ish now, and plan a November wedding with God's will. I love him more each day, if that is even possible. My life is totally devoted to serving my God, and in the process my Ish is part of that world. I really wish I could say that my worry of the shoe dropping was gone, not yet, its less, but I still feel so unworthy of this gift from God. We have gone thru secret meetings, to me moving to be near him, to finally sharing a home together. I am humbled by this kind man. I used to tell people to never take a net relationship serious, that its all fun and games till someone gets hurt. But this time I truly think I have it right, that this is a God thing and Lord knows I have had enough things happen to show me that I ain't wrong on it. The weird thing is, I thought if I got the dream, I would be "ok", and I have what every mom wants her daughter to have. The doctor, house with white picket fence, 2.5 kids (all grown) and a man that adores me. Yet I still wait for some one to snatch it up and say, "Fooled You".
I wonder where my Ish gets the perseverance to be able to assure me each day that this is real, good, and right. I don't know, I think society itself trains us to not think ourselves worthy of what we deserve, whether negative or positive. How man times have you seen the fireman save a life only to say when told he is a hero, that he is "just" doing his job, or the murder who is caught with the bloody knife in his hand, say it was only an accident. I think all people even the gorgeous 5'11 model or the 6' football player has issues on self worth and value. We get our value from others so often that when we think we are displeasing to them, the we say it must be our fault.
I want to be better, I want to one day and wake up and realize that I have a "MAN", one that stops to think how his actions affect me, one who takes the time to tell me I am beautiful, smart, his, one who the last year has done all he could to let me know that I am as much a part of him as breathing and eating.
The man has given me access to his most personal information, old letters from previous lovers, pictures, videos (wink), there is nothing that he has left for me to wonder or speculate about, but deep down inside, I still hold the thought, that he will wake up one day and see I am " just" Dhana, nothing great, nothing special.
I haven't blogged in so long, and miss it greatly. With a life that has family, puppers, responsibility, I can't sneak away to send out mindless rattling from a woman gone mad. If like me you wonder about your worth, you value, your ability to give as much as you receive, remember there is a little girl in Texas just like you that does it every day, and each day its a little less. Knowing that one day I will roll over in bed, and know I am with and where I belong. No shadow of a doubt anywhere.

Last time I was

on fire was last night, when honey and I watched a Nina Hartley instruction video, not that we need the ideas but we both think she is incredibly hot. And that made me almost to hot to touch...

Mediterranean meals is a tasty 'broke meal'

Greek Dish - Octopus Pita

Pretty much, I have a huge desire for quality meals, so when I see a chance to have really good Mediterranean meals, I am so willing to fork over the cash.

Gimme five minutes with None of them

I honestly think it is our stupidity that makes us value life as we age, most will learn from the choices they made and if they don't it is on them, I never listened to advice and think most people even when soliciting advice rarely listen to it.

The next scene features

Lovers

Me naked in bed, the lights low, my lover in the back ground calling my name slowly, the sound of my heavy breathing tickling your ears, my hands slowly slide down my.........

Oh, to be in Houston texas where

It was what my honey and I call our honey moon, though we had not yet decided to marry, it was filled with exotic foods from various parts of the world, and even more exotic sex. the combination was the most intoxicating time of my life.

Here is a

Woman extraordinaire, versed in all things concerning desire, want, fulfillment and ecstasy. A consummate student of Shibumi, studying spiritual things far and wide.

Stuck in an elevator with sam Elliot

sam Elliot
That man makes my panties very wet.. *drool*

Making out in In the kitchen, I was 13, I burnt dinner that night

It was perfect for a first kiss, not a lot of slobber, but sweet. Thank you Craig!!!

The Great Coupon Hunt

Its amazing how many coupon sites are out there, I stumble across a blog on here, called, Realmoneyrealwomenworkathome.. oh yea a long name. Here is the link.. http://www.realwomenrealmoneyworkfromhome.blogspot.com/. Jen has it together, and offers alot of ideas on how to make money at home, plus save cash, she only posts things she has checked out herself, and she personally answers her emails, which is really unusual for a serious blogger with a great following. Another site that is amazing in www.coupondad.net, he is a local man in my area that started because of hard times and has really gathered a following. I just tried his site and found some great shares. I follow him on Twitter, which makes it a little easier to know what he has going on new.
Its funny, I used to coupon a long time ago, and I am so not saying how long cause well, I don't want to be reminded how old I really am. Now I don't need to but truly like the challenge of seeing just how low I can get my grocery bill. Its become a fun game, with the savings going into a savings account for the extra things we want but would not use income from work on. I wonder how many people will continue to shop wisely after this recession is over, or if this is the fad of the moment and when the economy picks up it goes back to not caring what something costs. I have always been a frugal shopper, more so cause I work hard for my money and hate to think I don't respect the work I put into getting it. I truly hope that this is a life style change for many. Any one that knows legitamite survey sites or coupon sites, please let Jen know so she can share them, or leave them for me to give to her. I don't want all the work that comes to handling a site like hers, but surely would love to pass on info for her to check out and share with her followers.

'Karma Sutra' will make you LOL

Cause come on, how many normal women can get in that position?

Imitation

Imitation is suppose to be the sincerest form of flattery, yet when I see that some one is picking up things I do and copying the behaviour, I almost feel sad that they do. Its as though they only see the good parts of my life and ignore the pain, frustrations, annoyances. Being me is good, but some days, like most people its not great. I think that people should honestly see the value in themselves, and project that to the world they exist in. I can honestly say that I have found some great people who think they are no ones and I see that they are very much someone.
I am not even sure how to validate someone to where they would see their own value. Do we ever see our own value?

Self esteem especially on the net is almost non existent, well real self esteem anyway. Brad Paisley came out with a song called Online, and it really defines how alot of people on the net are. It honestly describes the psyche of some of the people online. And often that is where you meet someone and thru a series of conversation, they decide they like your life better, and will become you. It is often a rare event to find someone who is honestly who they say they are. Wether in the net, or in life, people are no comfortable with being who they are, and often put on a different persona thinking it is what will attract friends, lovers, mates.

Interesting Thoughts

I am finding out that with the recession being what it is, many are turning to the computer to make extra cash, between contests, samples, coupons, and other ways being advertised, a stay at home mom can easily help supplement the family income. I am not sure how true this is, or how much a person can make from it, but I am interested for any facts that can be shared on this. I am currently running a ministry and would love new ways to help the ones I help bring cash in to their lives to meet some needs they have. One of the problems I have found with people who are in situations that cause them to not be able to work in traditional jobs, is loss of self esteem, not being able to pull their own weight in their family. Most have tried many online work at home schemes which just made solid their thoughts of not being able to make smart choices or decisions.
I am hoping to find legitimate ideas that will help buy that extra loaf of bread, the gallon of milk that would make the day a little more healthier.

Love or Infatuation

Infatuation is instant desire, one set of glands calling to another.
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you, to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.
Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."
Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.
Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.
Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.
Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning.
Thank You Ann Landers
This is worth reading and remembering..